Friendships aren’t easy. Whether it’s between you and a friend or a sibling, the relationship won’t always go smoothly. Even Jesus’s friendships weren’t easy. Not everyone liked him. In fact, some of his own disciples betrayed him. Have you ever felt betrayed by someone really close to you? I know it hurts. There are many ways to handle the rough patches in friendships. Some ways are better than others. For instance, I would not suggest “getting back” at your friend by hurting them in any way. I suggest taking the high road. Who wants to take the low road anyway?
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses” (Matthew 18:15-16)
I really like this verse. It’s a good reminder on how to handle the people who hurt you. Well, my friends, I know we all love to gossip. It’s a norm among teenagers especially. When someone gives you a mean look or says something incredibly sassy, we have to go tell our other friends what just happened. It makes us feel better to disclose to someone how we’ve been treated. That’s understandable and an easy thing to do. What the Bible tells us is the hard thing to do. The Bible says, “go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone”.
We are living in a society where face to face confrontation is just simply unbearable. Each and every one of us love to hid behind the screens of our phones and computers and just type away our feelings. However, Jesus encourages us to confront our friends about their faults. Did I mention he tells us to alone? The word “alone” just gives me chills. It’s scary to walk alone. It’s scary to sit alone. Nobody likes being alone because it’s “awkward”. Have no fear, Jesus is here! Okay, sorry I had to. It’s true though. When you go to talk to your friend, Jesus will be there with you. If you let him, he will even speak through you to your friend.
Friendships are meant to last. A true friend will listen to you. When you face adversity with a friend, pray to God. He is full of power and might. He can transform the weakest friendship into something amazing. Have faith in Him. The Lord can restore all that is lost.
Whenever a friend forsakes you, instead of telling your other friends about it first, confront your friend face to face. Tell him or her how they have hurt you and ask why they did it. Pray this prayer before you talk to them:
Lord, let your words speak right through me to _________. Let them see Your light so our friendship can be restored. Let me see Your truth if our friendship isn’t meant to last. Let me put all my trust and hope in You. Amen.